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Questions Youth Ask

(For Parents of Children with Typical Development)

Worried about answering your child's questions about sex? Think you need more practice? Here's a list of questions that was gathered over the years from children and teens. If you can answer these questions, you can answer anything your child throws at you! If you can't answer these questions, we'll show you how.

While you're at it, try and decide which of these questions might indicate a serious situation.

Ages 0-8

Where did I come from?
Why am I different from Jenny?
Why don’t I have a penis?
Why can’t I touch your breasts?
Why can’t I wear a dress?
Why can’t I take a bath with Joey anymore?
Why does my bathing suit have a top?
What is sex?
Why can’t I marry Katy, she’s my best friend?
Why can’t I marry you, you’re my mom?
How come some people have large breasts and some people have small breasts?
Why can’t I touch myself down there?
Why can’t I dress like Britney Spears or wear makeup?
Why doesn’t Karen have a penis?
Why do I have to wear clothes?
Why can’t I take a shower with you anymore?
How does the baby get inside your stomach? How does it get out?
What is this (body part)?
Can I have a baby?

Ages 9-12

What’s a blow job?
What's a hand job?
Why do we have to go through puberty?
Does everyone go through puberty?
Do boys and girls go through puberty differently?
How long does puberty last?
Do boys get periods?
Do animals get periods? How?
Do animals go through puberty?
When is it okay to have sex?
How old do I have to be to have sex?
Why do teenagers think about sex so much?
What are condoms? Do they hurt?
What do condoms look like? Can you re-use them?
How old should we be when we start “rubbing our wally”?
How old do you have to be to date?
Why do people tease other people when going
    through puberty?
How do you know if you’re in a good relationship?
What is an orgasm? What does it feel like?
Why do people spread rumors?
What is a hymen?
How old do you have to be to buy condoms?

What is reproduction?
How are twins made?
What does birth feel like?
Can you get pregnant by swallowing sperm?
What are wet dreams?
When will I get breasts?
Are wet dreams normal?
What is HIV? How do you get it?
How do I get someone to like me?
How do I know if someone likes me?
What is sex?
Am I still a virgin if I use a tampon?
How do you use a tampon?
Do girls pee and have sex (orgasm) from the same hole?
What’s a clitoris?
Do girls masturbate?
How come girls don’t masturbate or talk about
    masturbating as much as guys?
Do girls think about sex?
Is it okay not to be circumcised?
If you’re not circumcised, can you still have sex?
What is semen?
What is rape?

Ages 13-15

Does it hurt the first time?
Why did every boy I danced with have an erection?
Describe discharge.
Why don’t we have to have our parents with us to get birth control?
Is my body normal?
How do you know when you’re ready for sex?
What do I do if I’m concerned about my friend’s behavior?
How do you know if you like girls or boys? (How do you know if you’re gay?)
Can girls get pregnant during their period?
How can I tell someone that I like them?
Why can’t I go out on a date?
What about kidney stones? [They think they're related to sexually transmitted infections.]
What’s a dental dam?
How will I know if I have an STD?
If a girl hasn’t ever had her period, can she get pregnant?
What’s the big deal about oral sex?
Can you get pregnant from anal sex?
What happens when boys take birth control?
How does a girl have an orgasm?
Why are some boys’ penises shaped like a “j”?
Why does John’s penis look different?

Ages 16-18

Why do guys always want to have sex?
How does _______ (birth control method) work?
What can I get from oral sex?
Why is a guy cool if he sleeps around but girls are sluts?
How do you know when you love someone?
How do I know when I’m ready for sex?
Why does the opposite gender give mixed messages?
If you have sexual dreams about both guys and girls, does that mean you’re gay?
What’s the deal with anal sex?
How do you know if you’ve had an orgasm?
How do you tell someone a relationship is over?
Why do guys only like the hot girls?
Where did HIV come from? Africa? Monkeys?
What is sexual assault? Is it the same as rape?


Compiled by Planned Parenthood of Northern New England.

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